Monday, October 6, 2014
My little soap box
I get on facebook, make announcements and try and get back to those who have left messages, posted on my wall or reached out to me. I appreciate those who do this and while I don't get to all the messages I really do try. Then after a little bit, I realize that my social media time is about to expire (hubby to see, dinner to make, kids to get ready for bed) and I hop off.
My favorite feature of facebook? The pictures! I love seeing pictures from trainings or events I was teaching in and can't capture myself. I find it puzzling when I am tagged in pics from events I wasn't in or can't go to...like in different states, or countries. Isn't that the purpose of tagging??? I generally untag myself b/c I look at the pics on my page to be a sort of photo memory log for me to remember the great times I have had with great people.
I just reinstalled the facebook app on my phone. I now have it a little more readily accessible. Not sure if I like this or not. I am already spending more time on electronics between music, choreo dvds, work, phone calls and messaging, instagram, and 2048 than I think is necessary. Oh my gosh! have you played 2048??? it's amazing...it'll knock your socks off and if you think you're addicted to a game...you ain't seen nothin' yet!!!
As I was scrolling through the news feed. I could not believe the negative post after negative post. This wasn't about someone going through a hard time. I have put myself out there during hard times and the outpouring of love and empathy was amazing and heart warming and filled my soul and I really hope I haven't come across as someone who was putting out negative energy. What I found was mindless negativity. Negative people throwing out negative energy to all their "friends" on facebook. Movie reviews, product reviews, hating this, annoyed with that, can you believe this, this was so terrible...
I get that this is a place where we can write our feelings, keeping our family and friends updated on the latest and greatest but are we using this as a crutch so we can vent and not have to face people?? I think we are facing a real issue where REAL human connection is being lost. Rather than calling our friend, going to see a coworker or family we are writing out our feelings on an internet site and making everyone else deal with the negativity. Yes of course there is the option to opt out of being friends or followers but when we look back on our lives...what are we focusing our efforts on?
At Zumba instructor convention this year Steve Boedt and I presented a session on The Power of Connecting with Others. We focus some on this, resourcing to electronic connections vs. REAL, long lasting connections with others. There is a loss of this is our society...we all do it.
Experiencing the outpouring of love, support and amazing stories from others towards my dad at the time of his funeral a few years ago made me think of what would be said at my own funeral. What kind of person was I? How did I make people feel? If someone were to run across an obituary of me and didn't know me personally, if they went to my facebook page-do I feel this is really representing the person I am? Would I be proud of what I am posting as my status?
Of course I do want to say that this is also met with many uplifting posts and people coming together for a greater cause...and there is always the good with the bad, always. Opposition in all things.
I ran across this quote on @HENRAYRAY 's instagram and I told him I was gonna steal it, it says-
"Be the most positive person you've ever hear, and the most generous person you know, and the most loving person you've ever felt! Be what you want from others." -Jeff Moore
Beautiful right? I love it. I want to be that. I added a pic of my mama at the top. This woman is the sweetest woman I know. She is kind, counts her blessings, has a grateful heart, doesn't complain, she tried to get me to speak a like a real lady using words like fanny. Oh how she tried. :D
I have great examples of how to treat others and how to live my life...I've got lots of work to do.
Posted by Kass Martin