Tuesday, March 19, 2013

My life is a balancing act.



Life requires balance.

My dad used to marvel at the fact that we are the only species that walks solely on our two hind legs. Others may do it from time to time but not all the time as we do. He said that this is just another illustration that we as humans require balance in all things.

I remember a time I called my dad for advice. I was struggling with wanting more out of life. I felt I had some talents that I wasn't developing or wasn't sure how to necessarily develop but wanted to work on. I was working for a mortgage company and didn't feel that was what my skill set was and that I wasn't doing what God had intended for me.

He told me that he struggled with this same concept. He was very talented musically. He loved music, singing, writing songs, practicing the guitar, piano and most of all the banjo. He was amazing. He said that he also loved being a dad. Being a provider and being there for his kids. If he were to really pursue his dreams as a musician he feels under the circumstances he wouldn't be able to spend enough time with his kids. My parents were divorced so he already had time with his kids as a disadvantage, being that he didn't live with us.

He said this is why he really loved his band Ridin The Faultline. He could sing, play the banjo, Dobro, perform and yet be there for his kids. It was his perfect balance.

I struggle with balance everyday. How much time and effort do I put in one particular area vs. another. I want a spotless house but when I am home I spend all my free time with my kids so the house isn't in the order I would chose. I want to pursue opportunities that come my way yet I want to always be there for my husband and kids. I want to rest my body yet I want to workout and stay healthy and active and let's face it SANE.

I teach for what we "Mormons" or Latter Day Saints call Relief Society. It's the third hour of our meeting and it's where all the women gather while the kids are in primary and men are in their meetings. It's a great calling for me b/c I don't get to go to church every week since some weekends I work and can't get back in time for my 9am ward meeting. This helps me really focus on gospel topics and do greater studying of gospel topics so I can try and teach what I have learned. :D

Our lesson on Sunday was on perfection. Although perfection is nothing one can obtain in this life, it focused on being perfect in the areas we can be and being better today than we were yesterday and better tomorrow than we are today. I love this. Life is a journey. As long as we have our goals and sights set on wholesome activities, building up others, being Christlike  and kind and always wanting to improve our skills, being the best version of ourselves we can be....than we are well on our way.

I try and keep this lesson in mind while I am trying to gain balance in my life between being a wife, lover, mom, sister, daughter, teacher, instructor, friend...it all requires a serious balancing act. I will try to gain this by being better today than yesterday, and better tomorrow than today...this is the goal at least. ;)  I haven't done Miss B's hair today yet so I'm still somewhat pulled together. lol Give me an hour or so and we shall see where I am at..and there is always tomorrow. :D

10 comments:

Brianna Clegg said...

Such a great post!! I'm constantly battling myself in my mind because I'm always looking for that perfect balance of everything. The things you mentioned: wanting to spend time with loved ones vs. clean house, rest vs. working out, are the same things I deal with every day!

I know no one has a perfect balance down, but it's nice to know that even superstar Zumba instructors deal with the same things I do. :)

Thanks, Kass! You're an inspiration!

stefsweeney said...

Kass, I feel like you wrote this post with me in mind! :-D I have been struggling lately with balancing all aspects of my life as well -- my full-time job; teaching Zumba; being there for my family; taking care of myself. I could not have read this at a better time. Although I am not LDS, I really appreciate you posting your lesson from your meeting. It really spoke to me! XO from a fellow Z instructor in Boston. :)

Anonymous said...

Thank u Kass. Im LDS but inactive. Not because I don't believe but because of some hurtful things that happened with my Autistic son. Being a Zumba instructor, working full time, doing choreo and taking care of my family does a toll. I sometimes have a hard time finding balance and start to criticize myself and find imperfections. Im thankful to know who I am and grateful for ur blog. Its what I needed to read today!

Melissa Smeltzer- From good ol' WA ST

Melissa Smelzer -

Jill Ball said...

Love it!! I loved the RS lesson Sunday because instead of focusing on perfection, I can focus on just being better than yesterday :) I am always amazed at how you seem to balance everything as a mom/wife AND kill it as a Zumba superstar. My two-year old loves to pull out my Zumba Wii game so I can tell her that I used to go to girl's camp with the cute girl on the front :) I really admire that you are an international superstar but are still active and family-oriented! Impressive, Kass, impressive...

party of 5 said...

Hey, Kass! Super post! I meant to comment on your "Paranoid" post. I tend to not hold anything back or pretend that life is perfect, and I really appreciate how you do the same... you put your struggles and room for improvement "out there" so that people like me can say, "Hey! I feel the exact same way and I'm not alone!" I'm trying to be all things for everyone... an attentive wife, a solid Christian, a supportive and patient Mom, an attentive friend, a dutiful employee and a hard-working student. Oh, and not so hard and demanding on myself. I can't be perfect at all of them, though, so I'm trying to give myself a break, live in the now, and strive to make decisions now that I'll be proud of down the road. Thanks for your REALNESS, girl!

*Tracy Martin

McKenzie Deakins said...

I LOVED your lesson on Sunday. My favorite part was when you spoke about being perfect in that one realm of your life. Not every part needs to be perfect, but at least you knew that you were good on that spot. I felt the same way and I keep thinking about it. I totally feel overwhelmed. I'm a stay at home mom and I own my own business. It's CRAZY tricky to keep it all together and aligned. Most days my little Ellie gets a braid or a side pony tail that falls out after 2 hours. Ugh!
Anyway, thanks again for being a fabulous teacher, both in church and on the stage.

QtKarie said...

Everyone has said it all, and since I'm never good with words its nice that everyone else could say it for me. :) The only thing left for me to say is THANK YOU!! Thanks for being YOU, and for being such an amazing example!

Xoxo

Heather Stevenson said...

I wish I coulda been there for your lesson =( I always liked your teaching style and specific examples of living it. You are so passionate about good things and so you put that passion into every day, be it at home, church, or New Jersey. You are doing such a great job and You even have time to be a great friend!! I love you girl!!

Brianna said...

You're amazing! I loved this post a lot as well as the rest of your blog! :) (just getting caught up) I think we all struggle a little with wanting to be perfect at everything, which is definitely overwhelming and not possible! I loved what you said about just picking a few things we can work on and be the best we can be at those things, always striving to be/do better :) Thanks for sharing! Love ya!

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